The Printable Happiness Project!

When I started this blog three years ago, it really was the start of my own happiness journey. It was at a time in my life when I felt lost, stuck and super unhappy.

I was realising that my happiness was very dependant on outside conditions and comparisons with other people. Looking back, I could see that I felt this was a normal thing to do and it’s what I’d always done. But where had it got me exactly?

It’s become so cliché to say that happiness comes from within and that it’s all in the journey but, my gosh, it’s so so true.

Happiness is all about those little habits we do every day both physically and mentally. It’s how we talk to ourselves, how we view ourselves and the perspectives we choose. And my biggest lesson was that I had a choice. I always assumed my negative self-talk was normal – that I wasn’t choosing to see life in a certain way.  But the truth is I was.

It can be hard to change your negative beliefs but with consistency and investment in yourself the resilience, emotional stability and cultivation of positive mental health can be achieved.

This is why I created the Printable Happiness Project 🙂

The Printable Happiness Project is a 53-page printable journal and planner which includes 28 worksheets with practices that will help you build up your self-love and create a more positive outlook towards your inner and outer world.

There are 17 guidance sheets that talk about each happiness practice with tips and motivation as well as explaining its importance.

Being printable, you can pick and choose which practices resonate with you and build up your own unique happiness project over the course of your journey. There are also several evaluation sheets to help you see your progress and address the areas of your life that need more attention.

The Printable Happiness Project has really been made with love and is designed to help you create the happiness habits that will improve your life in subtle, yet big ways.

For more information and to purchase the Printable Happiness Project click on the link 🙂

The Printable Happiness Project

I can’t stress enough how important it is to start with the intention to create your own internal happiness. Whether it’s with the Printable Happiness Project or not, make your mental health and happiness a priority starting TODAY!

Lots of love and happiness 🙂

The Importance of Mindset In Your Journey To Happiness

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Happiness is subjective – it can mean different things to different people. What will make one person happy may not make another feel the same way.

However, there are certain universal habits we can all adopt that will help us along in the journey to our own unique happiness and one of them is mindset.

Life has its ups and downs and we are inevitably going to come across hurdles and challenges – this is the reality of life. But how we choose to look at these times in our life can add to, or take away from, our personal happiness.

Mindset affects our responses to a particular situation or can, for example, determine how much effort we put into something and the strategies we adopt. Since we all have goals in life and situations we come across, mindset is particularly important in how we deal with life in general.

When it comes to our happiness, there are two types of mindset we can have – one is fixed mindset and the other is growth mindset.

Fixed Mindset – This kind of mindset damages our ability to experience happiness. A lot of us have it without even knowing and has been ingrained in us from a young age through the people around us.

A person with a fixed mindset believes everything is measurable and focuses on the goal outcome with an expectation of either success or failure with failure being the worst thing in the world. A person with a fixed mindset ignores the learning process, gets depressed and loses self-esteem easily becoming pessimistic (especially in the way they explain the world to themselves) if the outcome wasn’t as expected. They give up easily if a strategy or anything they set out to do didn’t work out for them.

Growth Mindset – This mindset is key to being much happier in our lives and for many is not a mindset we are overly familiar with.

A person with a growth mindset acknowledges that they will always learn from situations, hard times and challenges and be able to bounce back and be resilient. They believe that they are always growing and learning and that success in life (whatever that may be for you) is a continuous development of their skills. They reflect on strategies or situations and try alternatives if they didn’t work out. In essence, there’s no such thing as failure because it’s all about the journey, learning from mistakes and improving themselves.

 

So how do we adopt a growth mindset?

First of all realise you have a choice to change your mindset. It may not be an instant change but acknowledging you have the power to change your thinking, beliefs and perspectives is key to a happier mindset.

  1. Look out for your fixed mindset voice, it’ll say things like “What if you fail?”. We all have it somewhere – it’s pesky and undermining us!
  2. Recognise you have a choice to change it – we are all capable of changing and replacing thoughts to more positive ones (meditation is good for this!)
  3. Talk back to your fixed mindset with a growth mindset – the key to changing your fixed mindset is to challenge it: “are you sure you can do this?” “I’m not sure if I can do it now but with time and effort I can learn.”
  4. Act with your growth mindset and accept failure can happen and that it’s okay. It’s a process and a learning curve for growth – learn from setbacks and show yourself compassion.

Happiness is all in our mind and it’s our choice and our decision. It’s also subjective to each and every one of us but for everyone it’s important how we look at our journey to happiness. Bad things happen and it’s part of life, but we have a choice in how we look at them and interpret them.

Life can be challenging but with a growth mindset it’s about embracing your negative feelings and emotions but also not letting yourself dwell too much – understand that it’s an opportunity for growth rather than a setback.

Remember happiness is not luck, it’s a way of thinking 🙂

 

 

 

Is Low Self-Worth Ruining Your Happiness?

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We all struggle with ourselves sometimes. It’s part and parcel of being human. Am I enough? is a question that is pretty wide-spread amongst us all and can be found in even the most confident of people. Problems with self-esteem and self-worth can crop up in many areas of our lives. We live in a society where beauty, fashion and social media is consistently present in our lives. We are constantly bombarded with reasons to question our self-worth whether we realise this or not.

Low self-worth has become a habit for some. A person with low-self-worth has a brain programmed to interpret the world in a particular way despite what the reality is and don’t tend to think about questioning it. If good things are happening or nice things are being said the assumption will be that these are one-off events or people are ‘just saying that’ and it won’t resonate with them at all. Having low self-worth will even cause people to misinterpret others’ words and intentions and even go out of their way to see the insult behind the compliment.

But our sense of self-worth typically develops at a young age and we never grow out of the mindset. It can be affected by parenting for example. Particular positive encouragement from parents can create a sense of high self-esteem in a child whereas negativity can cause feelings of low self-worth even if completely unintentional (it’s interesting to note that you are highly likely to develop the same self-worth as a parent or an accumulation of both parents). Social status – what kind of neighbourhood you grew up in, friends you spent time with – can also be an influence.

A lot of the time it’s about individual thinking processes – people with high self-esteem, for example, will interpret new information about themselves as a positive no matter what that information is and people with a low self-esteem will immediately see something as a negative.

The way we perceive ourselves is very intrinsically linked to our happiness so if you feel you’re struggling with how you feel about yourself then what can you do to improve your self-esteem and self-worth?

The answer isn’t an overnight solution. It’s a mind shift but it doesn’t have to be as hard as we believe.

  1. Realise that what other people think doesn’t matter. Putting too much emphasis on others takes away your own self-worth.
  2. Don’t assume what people are thinking about you. Realise that how you think about yourself is only in your head. You wouldn’t want someone to assume what you’re thinking so why do this to others?
  3. Realise that no one really cares. Sounds harsh doesn’t it? But everyone is dealing with their own problems and their own thoughts and they’re really not focusing on what you said, how you look or what you’re doing.
  4. Don’t hold on to every negative. For every negative in our day there are 10 positives. This is a fact that we struggle to actually see. We are programmed to focus on the one negative thing that happened despite there having been plenty of small, great things too. For example, you always remember the nasty thing someone said to you one time but sweep away and forget all the compliments you’ve also received despite these outweighing dramatically.
  5. Realise that whatever has happened in your past is in your past. Every day is a new day to accept yourself for who you are. Whatever negative things your parents may have said or bullies taunted you at school about is nothing to do with you. For whatever reasons they also had low self-worth and projected this onto you and most likely onto other people too.
  6. Everyone has their strengths – even you! It’s important to reflect on your own strengths no matter how small you feel they are. Whether they are physical attributes, sides of your personality or achievements – these are all things people with high self-esteem focus on and they are absolutely no different to you…the only difference is their mindset!

These are only a few observations and there are many, many more. The key is really to realise that other people’s opinions are irrelevant when it comes to your life and your happiness. Happiness starts with you. Life is too short to live in a constant state of self-doubt and feelings of lack in ourselves. We all suffer from this to varying degrees (I include myself in this too!) but just getting on the road to feeling better about ourselves is a massive step in the right direction 🙂