Limiting Negative Language to Achieve More Happiness in Your Life


How often do you really listen to what you say?

The language we choose to use is a really good indication of where our mindsets are. Many of us believe we’re a positive person but is that reflected in what you say to others or how you talk about yourself?

It’s really important to be mindful of what we say as most of the time we aren’t fully aware of how we come across or the beliefs we put forward. It can sometimes be very subtle but the one we can probably all relate to is complaining. Do you complain a lot? Why? Question yourself, why do you have this belief? Is it limiting?

You may have heard about the rainy day analogy. A rainy day can mean something completely different to two different people depending on their perspective yet they’re still experiencing the same thing. What this shows is that we have a choice. If you find yourself complaining about a rainy day, can you see a different perspective? Can you think more about the plants that need the rain or be appreciative of your warm, waterproof clothing instead of cursing the possibility of the rain ruining your day?

And what about the negative language we use with ourselves? We often say things to ourselves that we’d never say to a friend and yet we are more willing to talk negatively or berate our being. We think it’s harmless. It’s habitual. We may not even realise we’re doing it. But over time it becomes extremely detrimental to our happiness. After all, if we’re not able to show love to ourselves then no one else truly will.

When you describe yourself to someone are you putting yourself down a lot or building yourself up positively? Be mindful next time you’re in conversation with someone – it may surprise you.

Do you tell yourself you’re a failure, not good enough or not worthy enough? Or do you tell yourself you’re successful, lovable, kind and lovely? To a lot of us this feels unnatural because we’re led to believe it’s egotistical and that we shouldn’t think highly of ourselves. But our self-beliefs shape our thoughts and how we move through the world. Therefore, it’s logical that thinking negatively about ourselves will ultimately affect our happiness levels.

Remember, what we think is a choice. Positive thoughts and words bring more of the same into our lives and the same goes with negative thoughts and words. It’s up to you which side of the spectrum you want to lean towards.

If you speak negatively about things, positive people will naturally be repelled from you while negative people will be drawn to you. Which would you prefer?

It’s all about awareness and intent. Most of us really aren’t aware of the things we say because we’re so used to thinking negatively about ourselves. These negative beliefs  may have come from past experiences or what our parents or peers said to us but they are untrue. For everyone.

Start noticing your level of self-love and the way you look at the world through the daily language you use. Let it be an indicator of where you’re at. This will be a powerful start in turning your awareness towards more positive words and therefore experiences in your life 🙂

4 thoughts on “Limiting Negative Language to Achieve More Happiness in Your Life

  1. Sparkyjen

    I love words. I love language in general. But like a shoe that doesn’t fit or hurts my feet, I will kick words off that don’t serve me in a positive way. Although I am cautious about correcting others, I will kindly repeat a word to a friend or family member that I feel is limiting them. For instance, when I hear the word “hate.” It’s caustic. Hating this or hating that is so broad.

    Surely there’s something good about most if not everything, which such a generalization obliterates right now. I definitely correct myself when I use it, and other words that cast a shadow so dark that the tunnel is barred entry. No light whatsoever exists!

    1. Jenny M

      I do wonder how much of it is subconscious and how much of it is just ‘the way people say it’ in other words just not being mindful of what the word really is conveying. This is why it would be a great habit for people to just think about what they’re truly intending to say and whether or not it’s a reflection of their inner thoughts and beliefs. I do try not to correct people although it’s hard! But find it very interesting when someone does speak negatively often.

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