Happiness in 2018: Set the Intention to Just ‘Be’


The new year often brings the idea of new beginnings. We set big goals for ourselves and strive to become a better, more rounded person. Maybe your goal is to lose weight, finding that special someone, get married and have kids, finally working hard towards your dream career.

But while these big life-changing goals may seem the epitome of happiness when they do happen, it’ll mean nothing if we haven’t first learnt to ‘be’.

New Year’s resolutions tend to centre around action. What can we doΒ to change our lives? What actions do we need to take in order to achieve them? Even if we manage to keep going through the year and attain a big life goal, the danger is that we soon realise the happiness it brings is very short-lived. We suddenly realise that we relied on these goals for happiness but they themselves can’t fully provide it for us – in other words it’s very conditional living.

True happiness comes within ourselves and learning to live in the now.

It’s learning to just ‘be’ in the moment but many of us find it hard to grasp this concept only because we’ve learnt that happiness comes in the form of achieving things. We can’t quite appreciate the beauty and magic of quietening our mind from all the chatter and be happy with our current surroundings and where we are.

So whether it’s through meditation, being more intentional with gratitude and appreciation, taking a walk and really taking in the world around you, observing your thoughts or questioning your reactions and emotions to things, make your new year’s intention to have a ‘to-be’ list rather than a ‘to-do’ list.

This doesn’t mean letting go of your big life goals but rather gently set an intention alongside these to appreciate where you are now and being okay with it. The power in this will be apparent when the big stuff eventually happens and all the feelings of happiness that comes with them won’t be short-lived but instead content and constant πŸ™‚

Happy New Year! πŸ™‚

9 thoughts on “Happiness in 2018: Set the Intention to Just ‘Be’

  1. Advanced Research Technology

    Happy New Year, Jen!

    There are two ways of approaching life: the “do” mentality and the “be” mentality. Being is always going to get you there whether you do what you intend or not.

    I find the “be” has another aspect that the “do” doesn’t. It has the flexibility to change, When the intended “do” no longer serves the intended trajectory, the “be” keeps pointing us in the right direction until arrival.

    1. Jenny M

      Yes, great point! The β€˜be’ is always our focus or navigation system that should lead us to the doing. That way our actions are more inspired and tend to lead us into more fulfilling directions.

  2. Hariod Brawn

    An excellent post, for which many thanks. I’ve always maintained that the pursuit of happiness is a somewhat misdirected goal, and that when we truly analyse what it is that we seek, it is in fact contentedness β€” the total acceptance of all that is, be it pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral in feeling. Amidst contentedness, happiness will come and go as it always has, it being a transient feeling. By definition, when happiness is not present we are unhappy, at least in some subtle degree β€” the Buddhist concept of ‘dukkha’, or dissatisfaction with mundane (everyday) consciousness. Contentedness, in contrast, accepts all that is with total equanimity. It is, I would maintain, our natural state, and we can test this by resting in bare awareness, or objectless awareness β€” your pure state of ‘be’-ing. That, I think, is the state of being sine beyond equal, and can be invoked, discussed and pursued without recourse to so-called ‘spiritual’ means or appealing to religious cosmologies. With all best wishes, and thanks once again, Hariod.

    1. Jenny M

      Wonderful wonderful comment, thank you πŸ™‚ Yes, I agree that the state of what we define as happiness is just a matter of acceptance and contendedness. I think most of us can relate to this feeling yet not link it it necessarily to the β€˜societal’ idea of what happiness is or, like you say, associate it too readily with religious connotations.

      1. Hariod Brawn

        Thank you Jenny, and I do hope I didn’t speak out of turn in referencing spiritual matters. In any case, I must apologise for the typo here: “being sine beyond equal”, in which “sine” was my brain thinking in Latin whilst my fingers continued to type in English! πŸ™‚

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